Positive Parenting is a way to parent your child that focuses more
on your child’s positive behaviors rather than on your child’s problem
Things to do:
• Praise your child and tell him exactly what you like about his
behavior. “I like how you cleaned up your toys!”
• Ignore minor negative behaviors such as whining and screaming.
• Play with your child for about 5 minutes a day and let her lead
•Actively listen to your child by reflecting what he says back to him.
“I understand that you want another cookie.”
•Use a when-then approach. “When you put on your shoes, then you
can go outside.”
• Tell your child what to do instead of what not to do. “Please walk”
instead of “Stop running.”
•Redirect your child by making something else seem more interesting.
Things to avoid:
•Spanking or threatening your child. These increase hitting and other
• Yelling and screaming at your child.
•Teasing and laughing at your child’s negative behavior.
•Giving attention to negative attention-seeking behavior.
Things we know:
• Being consistent lets your child know what to expect and lets your
children know that you mean what you say.
•Offering a child choices between 2 possibilities gives the child a
sense of control. “Do you want to wear the red shirt or the blue shirt?”
•Rewarding good behavior increases the chances of that behavior
• Picking your battles allows you to work on one thing at a time.